How to deal with ill-wishers?
Try to win them over.
Sometimes ill-wishers are your close people and you can’t ignore them.
If so, it is better to enlist the help of these people, rather than fight them. Try to do it as soon as possible.
Tell them that it is very important to you, and you need their help.
Tell them that you understand their concerns, but you really need a positive attitude and support.
If they are your close people who care about you, they will become your best allies.
rather than （要）…而不…，與其…倒不如…； instead of sb/sth 而不是；
Circumstances dictated that they played a defensive rather than attacking game.
The effect is soft and pretty rather than drop-dead sexy.
Really it's a workmanlike conference rather than a dramatic one.
care about 關心； 在乎； 擔憂； 關懷
You don't care about anything but yourself and your precious face.
They look too wasted to care about much.
Joe Sixpack doesn't care about that.